Living with my girlfriend turned out to be a lot harder than I thought it would be. I had to find a place of my own, and I finally bit the bullet and began looking at various South Charlotte apartments so that I could make that happen. I had spent too long in a bad relationship once before, and I was not willing to do that once again. I deserve better than to be disrespected over and over again. I’m not a perfect person, but I do all that I can to make sure that I don’t hurt other human beings. It was time for me to move on and be on my own or find someone who isn’t a problem.
The backstory is that I spent five years in a bad relationship prior to this last relationship that I left. I should have left much sooner, but I was trying to make things work. It took me a long time to realize that I can only work on and control myself. I can’t get other people to change when they don’t want to. The next person I began dating is the woman whom I lived with and just left. She showed me so many wonderful things about herself, or so I thought, for the first 6 months of dating. But I’ve realized since then that 6 months is not long enough to really know a person.
I’ve always liked living on my own, but leaving made me sad because I thought that part of my life was over and that I was going to embark on a life that would be fully shared with someone else when I moved in with my last girlfriend. When I saw that things weren’t getting better, I told myself I wasn’t going to waste enough 5 years, much less another year. I will be taking some time off for dating to really think about what I want out of life and future relationships. This will be a very positive move for me.